“With that, [Billy Beane] walks out into the clubhouse, closing the door behind him, and begins to storm around. Past the trainer’s room…and, finally, past the video room where Paul DePodesta stews on the improbability of the evening. Paul already has calculated the odds of winning twenty games in a row. (He puts them at fourteen in a million.) Now he’s calculating the odds of losing an eleven-run lead. (‘It may not be fourteen in a million but it’s close.’)” ~ Moneyball

The year is 2002. The Oakland Athletics, to cope with high baseball salaries and a low budget, revolutionize the way their team looks at baseball statistics. By finding players overlooked by every other team for their perceived flaws, the Oakland A’s put together a team that is able to get runs and win games. Throwing years of conventional baseball wisdom in the face of analysts, scouts, and managers, the Oakland A’s success is one topic of Michael Lewis’ book, Moneyball (now a major motion picture starring Brad Pitt, Jonah Hill, and Philip Seymour Hoffman).

Without giving away too much to people who haven’t read the book or seen the movie (or followed baseball history, for that matter), the road to success isn’t exactly smooth. While the statistics may be accurate, anyone who has ever gambled knows just because something is probable does not mean it’s a sure thing. On September 4, 2002, the Oakland Athletics faced off against the Kansas City Royals for what could be their 20th win in a row, the longest winning streak in American League history. Oakland quickly goes up 11-0 in the third against Kansas and all seems set to bring in the win.

Then everything goes to pot.

Over the next five innings, Kansas manages to score 11 runs, while Oakland doesn’t get a single run, tying the game. To everyone, the game looks all but lost. Behind the scenes, Billy Beane, general manager of the Oakland A’s, come across Paul DePodesta, the assistant general manager and brains behind the team’s statistics, anxiously calculating the odds that they got where they are and the odds that they could lose it all.

14 in a million!

0.0014%!

The other night, I was playing Risk and one player ended up rolling triple 1s, the worst roll you can get in the game. The probability of getting that roll is 1 in 216, or .46% – nothing compared to .0014%, but still highly improbable compared to other rolls. As the dice landed, the roller threw his hands in the air, exclaiming how unlucky his rolls were. We all quickly agreed, thinking how we would feel if that were our situation.

As we pondered the unfortunate roll, it occurred to us that triple 1s wasn’t the only roll with that low of a probability. As an astute reader, you may have realized that any triple using three dice has the exact same probability! (Check it out: Dice Probability Calculator)That means for him to roll a triple 1s, he was just as likely to roll triple 6s, one of the best rolls in the game!

“I guess that actually means you are lucky,” my friend said.

Of course, by “lucky” he meant the roller had something improbable happen to him. However, the roller certainly did not see it as lucky himself. It seems then, that our perception of luck is not about the probability of something unlikely happening, but the probability of something unlikely happening when we want it to happen. Instead of Risk, if we were playing a game where lower rolls equaled better outcomes, the roller would still have thrown his hands in the air but for a totally different reason.

As we have already shown, though, an uncommon positive event is just as probable as an uncommon negative event (as long as these extremes exist, which is another discussion). Both happen with equal frequency in our lives, we just notice and remember the events differently (there is plenty of evidence to suggest pessimists dwell of negative events more than optimists, and vice versa). Therefore, “luck” as we understand it is a function of our memory and expectations.

Fortunately, we have the power to alter these perceptions. By seeing and dwelling upon all unexpected events not as obstacles towards designing our perfect world, but as forays into new experiences that continually nurture our growth, every improbability can be “lucky.” Once we accept the capricious nature of life’s events, the only “unlucky” events are the ones that maintain the status quo. “Unlucky” becomes synonymous with “uneventful.” While it is easy for us to appreciate a predictable environment, it is important to understand that the beauty of life comes from experiencing, coping with, and learning from unexpected situations.

Of course, this is could be the poster child for “easier said than done.” As Billy Beane stalked through the halls, I am confident the last thing on his mind was how exciting it was to lose the 11-point lead. But I hope maybe the next time something unexpected happens, even negative, you will at least think about how much more exciting your life has become because of this one improbability.

Jason

YouTube: My Friend Jason.

Get Closer

YouTube: Pro Infirmis: Get Closer

Obvious to you, Amazing to others

YouTube: Obvious to you, Amazing to others

How Bad Do You Want It?

YouTube: Success: How Bad Do You Want It?

Featuring: Giavanni Ruffin (running back for East Carolina).
Speech by Eric Thomas (AKA The Hip Hop Preacher).

Music: Your Hand in Mine (Goodbye) – Explosions in the Sky

Play Like Champions

YouTube: Inspirational Sports Speeches

Transcript:

Great moments are born from great opportunity.
You shouldn’t have any doubt in your mind about what you are supposed to do tonight and about how you are supposed to do it. This is your time. Now, I don’t want them to gain another yard. We gotta go out there and we gotta take it. Take their game and you shove it right back in their face. Thats how winning is done

Team is something you belong to, something you feel, something you have to earn. If we don’t come together, it’s over. And i guarantee a week won’t go by in your life you won’t regret, walking out letting them get the best of you.

I’ll ask you one last time to be the best that you could be. Play like champions. Win.

It’s about heart. It’s about who can go out their and play the hardest. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. I don’t care what the scoreboard says at the end of the game. In my book we’re gonna be winners.

In any fight it’s the guy who’s willing to die, willing to take the hits, who’s going to win that inch.

Let me tell you something, you don’t let anyone, nothing, come between us.

On this team we fight and we shut them down, because we can.

Footage from: Bull Durham, Coach Carter, Any Given Sunday, Friday Night Lights, Glory Road, Hoosiers, Major League, The Mighty Ducks, Miracle, Remember the Titans, Rocky, Rocky Balboa, and Rudy.

Music: Reaching – Audiomachine

Screening Out Friends

Few people like getting calls from people they don’t know. Luckily, in late 1980s, phones were revolutionized with the deployment of caller ID, giving call receivers the ability to identify calling numbers. Today, with the advent modern phone technology, caller ID has become even more sophisticated in our ability to track who is calling us and when. While this has largely fixed the annoying telemarketer issue, it has helped develop a habit of limiting not only our conversations with people we don’t want to talk to, but also people we do.

Personally, I have a very bad habit of screening calls. It isn’t because I am trying to avoid anyone or don’t like talking to people. The problem is that I see a name, think about my last convo with the person, then decide whether picking up the phone is something that will take an easy two minutes, or deserves a much longer, quality recap convo.

The problem, though, is that like many of you who constantly forget to take out the trash or run that important errand, I also have horrible short term memory. If I don’t take care of something when it is on my mind, I’ll often forget or get caught up in something else. When I do finally remember, I am generally in a similar position to the one I was in when I got the call in the first place, and thus a vicious cycle of forgetting and procrastination takes place.

This is a huge problem for many of my long-distance friendships. I am notorious for being one of the hardest and least reliable people to get in touch with. This sounds like I’m making excuses, but I really do miss you all and would love to hear how your life is going. I’m hoping that at some point in my life I reach a maturity where this cycle is no longer an issue.

I bring all this up because I recently lost this ability to screen calls. My phone broke about a month ago in such a way that when I got a replacement, I was unable to shift over my contacts list. Given that the only phone numbers I have memorized are ones I learned when I was 15, everyone call was one I didn’t recognize. I avoided the whole facebook numbers shoutout, and instead only asked people I ran into for their numbers. Thus, my current contacts list is only people I see on a regular basis. Until they call, however, all of my long-distance friends will appear as random numbers.

This became apparent to me the other day when I got a call from an area code I didn’t recognize. For fear of missing something important, I picked up. It turned out to be a friend who I hadn’t seen in nearly 2 years who was attempting to coordinate a reunion of some old travel buddies. Expecting that I’d be the hardest to reach, she was ecstatic that I actually picked up. Contrary to my belief about long recaps, we only talked for a minute or two, but I can’t express how great it was to hear her voice again after so long, and how excited I am to be part of the plans to see these people again.

The funny thing is, I have to admit that if I had seen it was her calling, I probably would have put off picking up and decided to call her when I felt more prepared to answer. Like I mentioned, this would have led to me forgetting and I might never have gotten in touch with her in time to coordinate anything. But because I didn’t know who it was, what they wanted, or how long the conversation would be, I simply crossed my fingers that it wasn’t a salesman, and picked up. Not screening the called payed off.

The lesson hear is that sometimes even with the best intentions, we let our expectations get in the way of what could possibly be great experiences. Maybe you are one of those people who refuse to pick up for numbers they don’t recognize, instead expecting the person to leave a message if it is really important. There seems to be this idea that the only people we want to talk to are those we already have in our contacts list. Or maybe you are like me and only pick up when you think the conversation is going to be short and sweet. Either way, our expectations limit the interactions we have and the relationships we build.

We do this everyday, not just on the phone, but when we interact with anyone in our life. Just like we think of a certain friend as the person who talks forever on the phone and don’t pick up, we also think of a certain family member who complains so we avoid visiting home. But we forget the times when that certain friend only wants to say hi and invite you to a party, or when that certain family member wants to just laugh and happily play board games. When we let our expectations get in the way, we might successfully avoid some interactions, but we also miss out on many others. Humans are notoriously bad at prediction, so why are we letting that get in the way.

So, the next time you get a call random call or a call from a long-lost friend, go ahead an pick up. Maybe don’t even look to see who is calling before you answer. Let me know what happens.

Challenge: Get a piece of paper and take 5 minutes to write out as many phone numbers you can think of off the top of your head and who they correspond to. Then check your Contacts list and give yourself one point for each accurate pair.

Dream a Dream

YouTube: Susan Boyle – Britains Got Talent 2009 Episode 1 – Saturday 11th April | HD High Quality

Don’t let anyone assume what you can or can’t do based on your looks, your age, or your history. Find what you love, follow that dream, and the world will stand in awe of you.

Music: Les Miserables – I Dreamed a Dream

Making People Better…or Not?

“Y’all got on this boat for different reasons, but y’all come to the same place. So now I’m asking more of you than I have before. Maybe all. Sure as I know anything, I know this – they will try again. Maybe on another world, maybe on this very ground swept clean. A year from now, ten? They’ll swing back to the belief that they can make people… better. And I do not hold to that. So no more runnin’. I aim to misbehave.” – Malcolm Reynolds, Captain of Serenity

For those of you unfamiliar with Malcolm Reynolds, he is the captain of a fictional spacecraft, Serenity, in the Sci-Fi movie of the same name. This quote takes place during a pivotal scene where the crew of the ship have discovered that the inhuman Reavers (“men who have gone bad on the edge of space”) are actually a government experiment gone wrong. Attempting to get rid of the aggressive tendencies in humans, the Alliance (totalitarian bureaucracy that governs the known Universe) designs and releases a chemical agent into the air supply that causes almost all of the population to become docile. In fact, they become so complacent that they lay down and let themselves die. However, a small percentage of the population has the adverse effect, and the chemical agent excited their aggressive tendencies causing them to go crazy and become Reavers.

After the crew has discovered this, Captain Malcolm Reynolds gives this inspiring speech, letting the crew know that he plans to let the rest of “the Verse” know about what the alliance has done. This would severly undermine the power of the Alliance (so much so that an assassin has been sent to keep Mal Reynolds from finding the secret). Mal aims to misbehave.

If you couldn’t tell, I am a huge fan of this movie. It is an amazing story, and if you haven’t seen it, you should watch it. If you have seen it, you should watch it again. But as a liminal psychologist studying positive/clinical psychology (whose aim is to make the world a better place by understanding human behavior), this quote challenges me. Am I like the Alliance in that I don’t accept the way people are as good enough? Am I trying to make people “better”?

I think not. The goal should not be to improve an imperfect human nature (and whether it is imperfect at all is a discussion for another time), but to understand the full range of human potential. I look at the books and articles I am reading and realize that they aren’t about what people could be if we tinkered with them, they are about what people can be if they learn to handle all the anxieties, stressors, polutions, warfare, and aggression. Note, I am not saying “take away” anxieties, stressors, etc. The goal is to help people reach their desired potential in and around those aspects of life. We investigate the full potential of humanity to be happy, satisfied, intelligent, curious, friendly, loving, and so many more attributes because we believe that every human should have the opportunity to live to whatever capacity they desire.

The goal is also not to “make” people better; it is to help others be the people they want to be. When counselors get patients in their offices, it is not the psychologist who does the work, it is the individual. The best counselor is simply a guiding presence to help the individual accept who they are, help her/him acknowledge what is and isn’t working, and then give suggestions on ways to develop new potential. It is always the individual’s choice about what they want to do and how they want to do it.

The point is that humans don’t need to be made better. Humans have a potential to do both great and despicable things. They have the potential to lead amazing lives or exist in the doldrums of unappreciated living. Humans don’t need to made better because they already have all the potential they need. It is easy to get so caught up in an ideal of creating a fanciful utopia that we lose sight of the very real potential that already exists. The catch is that the individual has to make the choice themselves. Potential is realized from within, and only one person has access to that.

So, our goal is not to “make” people better, but to reveal the potential that exists and guide people, if they so choose and as best we can, on that path. What do you think about that, Captain Reynolds?

Powerful Beyond Measure

YouTube: MOTIVATION – “Be Great, Powerful Beyond Measure” – Best Inspirational Video Ever [Original]

Transcript:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure, beyond measure.
   I’ma show you how great I am!
Last night I cut the light off in my bedroom, hit the switch, and was in the bed before the room was dark.
   I’ma show you how great I am!
Only last week, I murdered a rock, injured a stone, hospitalized a brick. I’m so mean I make medicine sick.
   I’ma show you how great I am!
This kids gonna be the best kid in the world. This kids gonna be somebody better than anybody I ever knew.
   I’ma show you how great I am!
I have wrastled with an alligator, I done tussled with a whale, I done handcuffed lightnin, thrown thunder in jail.
   I’ma show you how great I am!
All you chumps are gonna bow when I whoop him. All of you, I know you got him. I know you’ve got him picked, but the mans in trouble.
   I’ma show you how great I am!
But somewhere along the line you changed, you stopped being you. You let people stick a finger in your face and tell you you’re no good, and when things got hard, you started looking for something to blame, like a big shadow. Let me tell you something you already know, the world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows, it’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody, is gonna hit as hard as life; but it ain’t about how hard you hit, it’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward, how much you can take and keep moving forward.
   Thats how winning is done!
Cause if you’re willin’ to go through all the battling you gotta go through to get to where you wanna get, who’s got the right to stop you. I mean maybe some of you guys got something you never finished, something you really want to do, something you never said to somebody, something. And you’re told no even after you pay your dues. Who’s got the right to tell you that, who? Nobody. It’s your right to listen to your gut.
   It ain’t nobody’s right to say no, after you earn the right to be where you want to be and do what you want to do.
Now if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth. But you’ve gotta be willing to take the hits. And not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you! You’re better than that!
   Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
   Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
All you chumps are gonna bow when I whoop him. All of you, I know you got him. I know youve got him picked, but the mans in trouble.
   I’ma show you how great I am!